Friday, August 27, 2010

Marriage: It's all about the teamwork

This week my posts have centered around my wonderful other half.  I thought I should just finish out the week discussing him, since I have a theme going here.

We make a pretty good team.  Not like Starsky and Hutch more like Lucy and Ethel (you thought I was gonna say Turner and Hootch, didn't you?)  We balance each other out pretty well.  And for 95% of the time this harmonious relationship grounds the other areas in my life that can seem a little out of control.

But sometimes, sometimes I wish he would use that brilliant mind of his for deductive reasoning when it comes to me and how we do things at home.

Okay I see you need an example.  Here is one of my favorites.  He will call me in the middle of the day and ask "What's for dinner?"  Now he only calls on the days when I don't take anything out for dinner because on the days I do I always ask him what he feels like.  I will reply with something like "I forgot to take something out, did you remember?"  And he always, ALWAYS answer the same way, "Yeah, but I didn't because I didn't know what you would want to have."

Really?  Seriously?  Why are you calling me? (You can go ahead and laugh, this has happened so many times that even if I had made my point and drilled that lesson home he still wouldn't take anything out for dinner because that would upset our routine when he calls to ask.  I am okay with that.  Weird but true.)

I have told him over and over again it is okay for him to make that executive decision on dinner choices but for whatever reason he just does not seem to be able to do it. He reminds me he is not a mind reader-which by the way I should mention he stole from me thank you very much-and we decide that dinner will either be steak-ums or we are going out.

Hm, I wonder if I don't sometimes purposely not take things out just so we can have that conversation and then get a dinner out?  Now I have something to ponder for the rest of the day.  Or at least until lunch time when he calls to ask whats for dinner. 

I am more devious than I thought and I wasn't even aware of it?  Are there moments like that in your relationships?  If so you need to share.  I would appreciate not feeling so alone. 


Karla Nellenbach said...

Oh believe me when I tell you that I have ALWAYS been aware of how devious you can be! Have fun on your dinner out ;)

NOT sent from iPad

Patty Blount said...

Me? Devious? *Adjusts halo*

Jessica Lemmon said...

I have a theory you have just helped in proving.

You know how they say married couples fight over a) money and b) sex?

Well, I think that c) "what's for dinner?" tops the list.

Linda G. said...

The eternal question. Ugh. But actually, TG has gotten quite good with his phrasing. It's more "What would you like to have for dinner?," which doesn't imply that I'll be the one cooking it. Because he KNOWS better than that. ;)

LReneeS said...

I think that's normal, Kelly. At least it's just little stuff like dinner. And thought that was brilliant you compared each other to Lucy and Ethel on I love Lucy. Ha ha.

I sometimes call my boyfriend a lot, but it's not anything like in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days --if you've seen that, lol. It just seems like I leave a lot of voicemail because he keeps my messages on there because he says he likes listening back to them to hear my voice. It's adorable for him to say that, but I hope he really doesn't mind.
I don't know, Kelly.... Can you relate to what I was saying? Or am I just rambling on here?

Happy writing,

abby mumford said...

although, if your man IS reading this post, then he's now onto your devious ways.

or you could go with the thought that he already is onto your devious ways seeing as how you've been married some 20 years.

or you could think your devious ways are so devious, you've out divafied both of you.

any way you slice it, enjoy your dinner out!

Candyland said...

Dinner is one of our bigger problems and we usually end up going out to eat to avoid an argument.

Dayana Stockdale said...

I wish that me not taking something out resulted in going out to dinner. My husband will pull the meat out and hold it under hot water forever to wait for it to thaw. He is so patient we rarely eat out!

Alyson Peterson said...

YOu are not alone and I do stuff that that all the time. I am a devious trader. I'll give my hubby two choices... he can wash dishes or wash kids. I don't like either and neither does he. The fact that I don't have to do both every night makes me love him more every day.

Just makes life interesting.

Kelly Breakey said...

love the comments guys. Keep em coming.