When I met Captain Kid we were both stationed in Okinawa Japan doing time in the Navy. Nah, I am kidding I loved the Navy. It wasn't like doing time at all. Not really. Okay, sometimes it was like doing time. But after I met my very own McDreamy all that changed.
When we said our "I do's", okay we didn't actually say I do. It was more or less an ancient Japanese women came out of the Mayor's office handed us our paperwork and told us to have a great life. When I asked her when the ceremony was going to be she shook her head and mumbled something like "Ah, these Americans."
Turns out when you get married over seas by a Justice of the Peace who is really not a Justice of the Peace you just have to sign a lot of documents and get everything translated from English to Kanji and back again.
When we were first talking about getting married we didn't see it happening for at least two more years because we would need that long to save the money for my "dream" wedding. I knew exactly what kind of wedding I wanted. Hey I am female, of course I knew. I even had the dress already designed. Yes I do have many talents. Instead it was time for him to rotate and orders were being cut and the only way we were going to be assured orders together was if we were indeed married. *sigh*
So to make a long story short we shelved the big wedding and decided to do it right there in Japan. Our wedding was very low key. Just us and our attendants which consisted of his best man Ray, and my maid of honor, Eric. (Did I mention I always got along better with the guys?)
If we had planned the big wedding with our families back in the states I don't know how that would have effected our first years of marriage. To say that my mother-in-law and I don't see eye to eye is an understatement and the planning of the wedding would have been a disaster. I can clearly see that now. No one would have been happy. We didn't have a Catholic ceremony which bothered my Gram right up until the day she passed away and we would not have gotten married in his hometown which I learned after the deal was done that was expected.
And last night for the first time I was truly glad that prayer went unanswered. Our wedding was small but our party was big. Friends from section and neighbors who joined us for what they thought was a house warming party, which turned out to be our wedding reception. We had a bar-b-que and plenty of drinks and dancing. There were no expectation to fulfill except our own and we were both extremely happy. I wonder how much different it all would have been if we had the wedding I originally wanted to begin with?